Hi guys! How’s your Monday going?
I’m having a bomb day so far — woke up to sunshine, got a quick training session in, and then had lunch at Chipotle with one of my girlfriends.
Carnita bowl with guacamole and a cup for water (with lemon!).
I definitely don’t have lunch dates enough! I often forget how important it is to maintain friendships when you’re living a busy life. Having a close group of girlfriends keeps me grounded and ultimately sane when things start to pile up. As much as I hate to admit it, stress gets to me! And it’s always good to have the friends that pull you back into reality.
Let’s talk about life philosophy.
So, recently I’ve been put in a lot of situations where I lose value in myself. Wonder what it is that I’m doing wrong that makes certain situations difficult. On our girl date today, I talked to Amanda about this a little bit.
Why do we so often let others get to us? All too often I find myself taking a comment from someone else way too seriously, and it starts to eat away at me. It makes me doubt my potential in my athletic performance, friendships, relationships, school — and I constantly get down on myself.
WHY do we do this?
Why had I let myself get down on things other people say, instead of listening to the voices that kept trying to lift me back up?
What I realized is that you must take everything with a grain of salt, and never let the words of others change how you see and love yourself. This is not in an attempt to sound selfish — but the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one you can cultivate.
When you love yourself, you are better able to love others and give them the same compassion that you give yourself.
Love well, forgive always, and never ever let the words of others damage your self-worth.
In a conversation with Clare last night (who celebrated another amazing and beautiful birthday yesterday, go give her a Happy Belated!), she told me that your relationships with others should not be stressful. You should always feel like a crown jewel, in love and in life. After all, it’s quite often the people we surround ourselves with that shape who we are.
As I was telling her about what’s been going on in my life, I started to realize that I had identified what it was that made me feel unworthy and why. Once I was able to identify this, I took charge and mentally removed myself from the situation, and began to let go. Let the issue and all of the emotions surrounding it just leave.
One of my favorite songs as of late (“Home” by Phillip Phillips), says it perfectly:
Settle down, it’ll all be clear
Don’t pay no mind to the demons
They fill you with fear
The trouble it might drag you down
If you get lost, you can always be found
Just know you’re not alone
Cause I’m going to make this place your home.
I decided to take control and step away. That my self-worth and self-love are more important than a negative comment — and staying strong within yourself and your own integrity is one of the most important things you can exercise.
After I was accepted this fact, I felt free. Free of the shackles that we put on ourselves when we allow others to take over. And then I started to feel grateful.
Grateful for my parents, who came all the way from Rochester on Saturday just to take me to dinner.
Grateful for my friends, who lift me up when I can’t do it myself.
Grateful for this beautiful life I have, constantly surprising me with its gifts each day.
Grateful for this body, that is able to exercise strength and beauty, challenging my mental and emotional boundaries.
And most of all, grateful for this blog. That has brought me to places I could never have imagined, friendships I never would have been blessed with, and the ability to reach all of you, who for some reason like to read (listen) to me ramble every day.
Now I am filled with only grace. Love, appreciation, and a wholly grateful heart.
That’s my rant for today.
What are you grateful for?