Lift Yourself UP! + What I’m Grateful For

by Katelyn Block on October 22, 2012 · 29 comments

Hi guys! How’s your Monday going?

I’m having a bomb day so far — woke up to sunshine, got a quick training session in, and then had lunch at Chipotle with one of my girlfriends.

Carnita bowl with guacamole and a cup for water (with lemon!).

I definitely don’t have lunch dates enough! I often forget how important it is to maintain friendships when you’re living a busy life. Having a close group of girlfriends keeps me grounded and ultimately sane when things start to pile up. As much as I hate to admit it, stress gets to me! And it’s always good to have the friends that pull you back into reality.

Let’s talk about life philosophy.

So, recently I’ve been put in a lot of situations where I lose value in myself. Wonder what it is that I’m doing wrong that makes certain situations difficult. On our girl date today, I talked to Amanda about this a little bit.

Why do we so often let others get to us? All too often I find myself taking a comment from someone else way too seriously, and it starts to eat away at me. It makes me doubt my potential in my athletic performance, friendships, relationships, school — and I constantly get down on myself.

WHY do we do this?

Why had I let myself get down on things other people say, instead of listening to the voices that kept trying to lift me back up?

What I realized is that you must take everything with a grain of salt, and never let the words of others change how you see and love yourself. This is not in an attempt to sound selfish — but the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one you can cultivate.

When you love yourself, you are better able to love others and give them the same compassion that you give yourself.

Love well, forgive always, and never ever let the words of others damage your self-worth.

In a conversation with Clare last night (who celebrated another amazing and beautiful birthday yesterday, go give her a Happy Belated!), she told me that your relationships with others should not be stressful. You should always feel like a crown jewel, in love and in life. After all, it’s quite often the people we surround ourselves with that shape who we are.

As I was telling her about what’s been going on in my life, I started to realize that I had identified what it was that made me feel unworthy and why. Once I was able to identify this, I took charge and mentally removed myself from the situation, and began to let go. Let the issue and all of the emotions surrounding it just leave.

One of my favorite songs as of late (“Home” by Phillip Phillips), says it perfectly:

Settle down, it’ll all be clear
Don’t pay no mind to the demons
They fill you with fear
The trouble it might drag you down
If you get lost, you can always be found
Just know you’re not alone
Cause I’m going to make this place your home.

I decided to take control and step away. That my self-worth and self-love are more important than a negative comment — and staying strong within yourself and your own integrity is one of the most important things you can exercise.

After I was accepted this fact, I felt free. Free of the shackles that we put on ourselves when we allow others to take over. And then I started to feel grateful.

Grateful for my parents, who came all the way from Rochester on Saturday just to take me to dinner.
Grateful for my friends, who lift me up when I can’t do it myself.
Grateful for this beautiful life I have, constantly surprising me with its gifts each day.
Grateful for this body, that is able to exercise strength and beauty, challenging my mental and emotional boundaries.
And most of all, grateful for this blog. That has brought me to places I could never have imagined, friendships I never would have been blessed with, and the ability to reach all of you, who for some reason like to read (listen) to me ramble every day.

Now I am filled with only grace. Love, appreciation, and a wholly grateful heart.

That’s my rant for today.

What are you grateful for? 

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morgan October 22, 2012 at 3:55 PM

well, that was quite the o-kay rant!
gratefulness is important, especially when it comes to the chaos/craziness that is life. it’s so easy to get caught up in check list and todo list and the day-to-day that we forget what we’re living for.
found your blog via twitter looking forward to future posts!

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Rachel October 22, 2012 at 4:22 PM

As you get older you will realize that your relationships with others have been, are, and will continue to be stressful. That is reality! Relationships are not always easy – they require work and they will cause you stress every once in a while. You just have to hope that the good times outweigh the bad ones, and if they don’t, then it’s time to let that person go.

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Courtney @ Journey of a Dreamer October 22, 2012 at 4:26 PM

I am also thankful for my awesome family. My husband is my support system and I couldn’t be more thankful for him! I am also grateful for my crossfit family, my daughter, and the wonderful people i’ve gotten to know through blogging!

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Molly Ritterbeck October 22, 2012 at 5:17 PM

This is what I needed to hear – more than you know today!

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Caroline October 22, 2012 at 5:25 PM

I try to regularly write down what I’m thankful for because it shifts my focus to the positive, and it’s healthy physically and emotionally! Here are a few things I’m thankful for right now:

http://fightingforwellness.wordpress.com/2012/10/18/thankful-thursday-19/

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clare @ fittingitallin October 22, 2012 at 6:35 PM

Peter plays that song – Home – for me whenever I get upset or anxious:) <3 you girl

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purelymichelle October 22, 2012 at 6:42 PM

great post! I am grateful for having a having a loving and supportive family!

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jenna October 22, 2012 at 7:38 PM

awesome perspective, katelyn! i am so thankful that you posted this, because its something that everyone really needs to remember! have a fantastic day, and thank you again for sharing!! spa love!

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Emily @ Have Your Cake And October 22, 2012 at 7:51 PM

“What I realized is that you must take everything with a grain of salt, and never let the words of others change how you see and love yourself.” — Amen sistaaah! I learned this a couple years ago, it changes your perspective on EVERYTHING.

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Danielle @ Clean Food Creative Fitness October 22, 2012 at 7:56 PM

Love love love this post Katelyn! You are awesome and I’m so happy you realize that! I need to hear this positive thinking every once in a while as a reminder to keep my head up! Thank you for helping me to acknowledge everything I’m grateful for, amazing family and friends included!

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Laura October 22, 2012 at 8:20 PM

So very grateful for beautiful friendships and a loving family. & basically everything else you have already said. :)

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Lauren October 22, 2012 at 9:10 PM

What a beautiful way of thinking. Stay focused on these things my dear and you will always be fulfilled! :) Miss you!

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Sarah October 22, 2012 at 9:56 PM

This is such an inspiring post! I’m grateful for my parents, my ability to go to college, the environment I was brought up in, and so many more things. Sometimes I lose sight of how lucky I am, but it’s posts like this that remind me :)

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Jessica @ Busy Living Healthy October 22, 2012 at 11:04 PM

This is an amazing post! I definitely needed to read this. I need to remember to take everything with a grain of salt. Thanks for writing these great posts! :)

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Red Deception October 23, 2012 at 12:26 AM

My Monday was extremely busy, as always. Life as a NP!

I’m grateful to be alive. Somedays with my health, I am grateful I am still here and doing well. Every morning is wonderful.

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Kathleen @ KatsHealthCorner October 23, 2012 at 12:46 AM

Thank you so much for this post, Katelyn. Thank you for the reminder to always remember how much I’ve been blessed with and all of my family and friends. Thank you for the reminder to be grateful for everything. Thank you for always being such a great example to me. :)

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Andrea October 23, 2012 at 6:14 AM

Love this post. Whenever I start to whine or feel sorry for myself, it helps SOOO much to remember that I am the luckiest girl ever and my tiny complaints are nothing compared to the struggles that others have. When you bring it all back to love and gratitude, everything gets better :-)

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Lea @ Greens and Coffee Beans October 23, 2012 at 7:24 AM

I love this post. especially this phrase: “Love well, forgive always, and never ever let the words of others damage your self-worth.” such good words to live buy.
I’ve been trying to be more grateful for the things in my life, I’ve noticed that when I start taking important things for granted, something bad usually happens to remind me I need to be more grateful.
I also really like the Phillip Phillip’s song (:

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Stellina @ My Yogurt Addiction October 23, 2012 at 8:40 AM

Great post girl!!! We often tend to look at what we don’t have instead of what we do. Sometimes I’ll be having a bad day and want to sit down and cry and feel sorry for myself, but in reality my bad day might be someone elses great day!

I’m thankful for my health, my parents, my amazing family, my dog, my job, my friends and of course my blog! :)

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heidi kokborg October 23, 2012 at 9:40 AM

Love this post! I am grateful for my health, my sister, my dog, my blog, my friends and my hair (I love my hair – yes I know I am a little weird!). :)

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thehealthyapron October 23, 2012 at 2:48 PM

What a great post. I think women are more prone to over thinking a simple comment that someone else might make. I am that way, especially with my in-laws. In recent months, I’ve been even more prone to this because of my weight. I’m about 8 lbs up from my pre-pregnancy weight and I feel like others are secretly judging me because I haven’t gotten back in my skinny jeans in 12 weeks. In REALITY, I know this is not what others are thinking (or maybe some are), but because I’m a dietitian, I feel like the spotlight is on me! Ug, I need to just be grateful for my GORGEOUS baby girl and forget all these weight thoughts…I’m trying!

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Irina @ Chocolatea Time October 23, 2012 at 4:42 PM

Well said, Katelyn! I’m also someone who takes what others say waay too close to my heart, and over-think everything. With time, I’ve learned to push those thoughts out of my head and fill my mind (and heart) with gratitude for my health, family, and life in general. It’s so easy to overlook all the good things in our lives, probably because we’re too conditioned to our everyday routines, but having a bad day just means that we appreciate our good days even more :)

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Michelle@Peachy Palate October 23, 2012 at 5:35 PM

I’m grateful for my health, my family and being part of the blogging community! xxx

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Anne October 23, 2012 at 8:33 PM

Simply lovely to be reminded of :)
I hope things turn around!

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Alyssa October 24, 2012 at 8:11 AM

It’s only 8am and now I’m craving Chipotle. Thanks a lot!!!!!

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Lauren @YoungNester October 24, 2012 at 3:56 PM

I definitely needed this post today. I have a terrible habit of letting others get to me too and it’s especially true recently. Thanks for a great post to remind me to be grateful and love myself :)

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Joanna October 26, 2012 at 11:44 PM

First of all, it looks like your Chipotle excursion was delicious!

Second, I really like your philosophy. Thanks for sharing your lesson. I recently walked away from a toxic interaction. Sometimes people just have no concept of how negatively they are influencing you. It takes a lot of strength to remove yourself and mentally decide to walk away. I’m still kind of working on the mentally part, but I’m counting my blessings like you are :)

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Hayley @ Running on Pumpkin October 31, 2012 at 8:49 PM

I had a similar conversation with a friend the other day that really put things in perspective that I was letting get to me. It’s so true to take what others say with a grain of salt – they are ultimately thinking of themselves and probably don’t even realize how much of an impact a small negative comment is making on you! On the flip side, I try to be really mindful of what I say to others and how I treat people because I know how big of an impact it can have. I think epople should really focus on spreading the love and being kind to everyone, even if we are tempted to criticize!

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